When I do, I enjoy my time by doing the laundry or mopping the floor.
Yeah, I'm sexy like that.
It's been more than a year since I've enjoyed a pedicure and I read at night after the kids have gone to bed. Curling up with a good book on a cold rainy day doesn't happen unless there are two boys vying for space on my lap to read Dr. Seuss.
I am not complaining...Just thinking of what life was like before kids.
I used to have the BEST Halloween parties. Lots of food and spirits and everyone knew that costumes were mandatory!
I even went so far as to hide a small stuff rat behind the pedestal in my powder room that would scare the daylights out of the girls when they were peeing.
The rat has recently been resurrected and is now showing up around the house in various locations being dragged from one to the next by the tail as one of the boys shouts, "I have Templeton!"
They love the movie Charlotte's Web and of course they love The Rat.
Tantrums were not a thing I had to deal with before kids...at all.
That has changed.
We recently endured the battle of the PJs.
David, for whatever reason is justifiable to a two-year-old, decided that he only wants to wear pajamas and refused to put clothes on to go outside.
When I say refused, I mean kicking, screaming, flailing refused.
Trying to get out of the house was a nightmare.
I was sharing this to my moms group when one of the moms (who also has twin boys) said, "One of my kids spent three years in nothing but pajamas, cowboy boots and a cape." Another mom's hand flew to her mouth as she exclaimed, "OMG I saw you in Home Depot!" Evidently her daughter thought it was the coolest outfit she'd ever seen!
I have given up on the PJ argument.
If he goes to the store in pajamas I don't care. We are all happier and other moms come to me and tell me that their son or daughter went through the same phase.
Thank you to the moms who have "been there, done that" and share their experience in a way that gives me hope.
Some of the things I've learned from other moms and from the boys are:
- I wasn't one to take myself seriously before and do so even less now.
- What's important to me, is seldom important to others.
- Talk to other parents.
- There is no such thing as a spill-proof sippy cup.
- Almost all boo-boos can be fixed with a kiss.
- Someday my boys will push me away.
Each of the boys goes through a needy time where only mommy will do. As the first husband of my best friend once said, "There are two people in the world: Mommy and everyone who isn't mommy."
Right now I can't imagine that there will come a time that the boys won't want to be with me all the time but I know that it will.
When one of the boys is throwing a tantrum I try to remind myself that this will not last forever. This too shall pass and my adorable, happy, sweet boy will once again emerge.
This applies to the good stuff too.
Not in a negative way but just a reminder that I need to appreciate each moment for what it is because all moments will pass.
Nothing lasts forever and I need to be in the present as much as possible.